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Coping with Miscarriage |
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A miscarriage can be one of the hardest things you will ever have to deal with. Often there is no explanation for what happened. You will be told that there was something that just wasn’t quite right with the fetus. People that you talk with about it may not understand the depth of your pain. You will be told that it just wasn’t meant to be, that it is probably for the best because something would have been wrong with the child. None of this will help, and it will only frustrate you. There are people that will understand, and most hospitals now have a grieving counselor available to you. Usually it is one of the nurses, and they can be very helpful. Don’t be afraid to mourn in your own way. If it is a later term miscarriage, you may want pictures, a lock of hair, something physical for you to remember your child with. It is perfectly alright if you don’t though. The way you handle your miscarriage will be YOUR way, and there is no wrong way. Remember your partner too. They may have an entirely different way of handling a miscarriage, and you will need to respect that. Give them time they need, if they need it. If the two of you are mourning in the same manner it can be good. Try not to place or take blame, it will only hurt things n the long run. Whether you had an early miscarriage, and had not yet known or accepted the pregnancy may play a part in how you handle it. After, talk to your doctor about trying again if that is what you want. Some want to try right away, and some prefer to wait a while. The important thing is to do what YOU feel is right for you.
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